Messed-Up In Midwest

I'm a not-so-attractive guy who has tried to start a relationship for the past 10 years. All I've seen are women who want nothing more than sex, money, and a guy to treat them like crap. I was raised to treat women right, and I have a romantic streak in me you could drive on, so I can't be the “bad boy” these women want. The constant rejection due to my looks is ridiculous. Everything I've tried has gotten me nowhere, as far as losing weight goes. My only hope is to find some woman who can accept me for who I am, flaws and all. Considering how well that's gone, I'm getting to the point where I'm about to totally give up on ever having a relationship. Help.

Dear Messed-Up in Midwest Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. What you may consider to be not-so-attractive, to the right woman, you may find that you are an amazingly attractive man. It's hard to know where to begin. It is definitely true that it is easier for a woman to start dating than a man. However, I don't want you to be discouraged, I believe there is someone out there who will see you for the amazing person you really are. You just have to keep looking and never settle just because you think you aren't worth enough that you can't keep looking. You will find a woman who wants a man who will treat her right. Just keep being yourself. I wouldn't give up on the possibility of a relationship. I know how discouraging it can be when you spend so long either finding no one or finding all the wrong people. It'll happen, eventually. Don't try so hard. When it happens, it'll happen naturally. Usually love happens when you least expect, or even sometimes least want it. But when it's right you'll know.